dancer. singer. water baby.
Monday, March 7, 2011 at 12:30PM It's hard to let go, breathe+let your kid do their thing sometimes. You want them to do well. You don't want them to get hurt. You want them to have fun.
Sometimes (for some parents, it's more often than 'sometimes') you don't want them to embarass you.
In public, fisures of tension develop as soon as you walk out of the door with the kid(s)+the fisures become tectonic plates ready to rub+shake off the cool-parent demeanor that you're trying to present. You go into a restaurant+your kid plops on the floor+makes a cape out of a table cloth or whatever+then decides to lick the plates+cups at the table for some kid reason+then they have to go pee. Like, they HAVVVVVE TO GO PEEEEEE. Right now. RIGHT. NOW.
Pseudo cool-parent demeanor is gone+your fisure-turned-tectonic-plates rub+your voice turns from awesome MILF voice to straight-up Mom voice: "GetOffTheFloor+StopLickingStuff+IKnowYouDon'tHaveToPeeWeWentBeforeWeLeft"
It happens.
Mostly, though. It's not that serious.
I'm CONSTANTLY learning this.
Let her do her thing. Let her dance around while standing in line at the store cus she's an amazing dancer, really+she has a bit of a hard time staying still. Let her sing even if it's mostly quiet cus her voice is so pretty+she's got a song she wants to get out. Let her play in the rain.
She asked, "Mom. Can I meditate in the rain?" "Yes." She connects with water+she wanted to be spiritual with it. Even though it was a little cold+a wet kid can be a whiney kid, that specific question came from a special kid place.
She meditated in the rain for a bit+then danced in it. You can't shush that up or tell that to stay still or tell that to 'stop.' Or, you can, but it'd suck for the kid+it'd suck for you. I love what my kid teaches me. By letting her do constructive (no matter how minute) things, I'm giving her confidence+also momentary (or lifetime) bits of happiness for her+me+you, if you happen to see my little girl meditating+dancing in the rain.
It fucking rocks.
Reader Comments (2)
how gorgeous.
thanks for sharing this. made me tear up.
<3 Thanks, Sandz.